"Our parents got divorced when we were kids, and it was kind of cool. We got to go to divorce court with them. It was like a game show. My mom won the house and car. We were all excited. My dad got some luggage."
Tom Arnolds, Sunbeams, The Sun, June 2011, p.48
You are not a terrible person for wanting to break up with someone you love. You don’t need a reason to leave. Wanting to leave is enough. Leaving doesn’t mean you’re incapable of real love or that you’ll never love anyone else again. It doesn’t mean you’re morally bankrupt or psychologically demented or a nymphomaniac. It means you wish to change the terms of one particular relationship. That’s all. Be brave enough to break your own heart.
From Dear Sugar, Tiny, Beautiful Things, 02/10/11
Divorce is the breaking of a vow to God to be there for another person in sickness and health, richer or poorer, good times and bad til death do you part. It is not to be taken lightly and it has very little to do with love. Marriage is about commitment not love. You can love a lot of people, but you can't marry them all. Marriage is a covenantal relationship not a romantic honeymoon. People no longer understand the meaning of marriage, the world is moving too fast.
Do Unitarian Universalist understand and practice marriage any better than anyone else. I suspect not. Unitaritan Universalists, being a liberal religion, I would expect are even more tolerant to divorce than other religions.
It is interesting that Unitarian Universalists pride themselves on being a covenantal faith and yet they find it difficult to practice covenantal marriage any better than anyone else. Do UUs practice what they preach? Does anyone know what the divorce statistics are of UU marriages as compared to other denominations?